A baby, it upsets everything: a woman who becomes a mother, a man who asks himself a thousand questions, the shopping list (longer), the nights (shorter) ... Here are five tracks to enjoy with happiness these first months with your Infant without putting your life as a couple in the background.
1. Baby blues: a transient test for your couple
- This state of passenger depression occurs between the third and the tenth day who follows the birth with more or less intensity. The causes of baby blues? A hormonal upheaval and psychological factors. Becoming a mother is not easy, even if the child has been desired intensely. The weeks following delivery can be a difficult step for your couple.
- What to do to spend this moment at best? Show your companion that you understand that you can support him. Reassure her with the love and tenderness you bring her and help her move on with finesse and subtlety.
- If this discomfort continues beyond a few weeks, it is probably no longer baby-blues, but postnatal depression, during which the young mother may feel no emotion towards her newborn. To you alone, as loving and caring as you are, you will not be able to resolve the situation. Postnatal depression will require psychological and even medication management.
2. Your father's worries, talk about it
- If the term "baby-blues" is reserved for mothersThis does not prevent some young fathers from feeling depressed, anxious and a little lost after the birth of their child. After congratulations and moments of intense pride, the confrontation with reality is sometimes difficult and the effects on the couple are felt. Some even have baby-blues dads.
- Being a father is also about looking ahead, coping with expenses, bad nights and fatigue that accumulates. "Men may have the impression that their wife escapes them, they may be afraid of the future, they may want to flee from their new responsibilities, and they may be in doubt about themselves, especially as some are not fully settled in professional life, "says Nicole Prieur, psychologist and psychoanalyst.